Soulmates

We hear of the term but what truly does it mean?  Do we only have one?  I have heard of soul-gazing where you and your loved one can simply stare into each others eyes and 'talk'.  Are we to wait to marry a soul mate...or are we to let God decide.  Well, in my particular case, God one...soulmate left.  
 
But who am I to argue with God?  Although I have...many times.  But of course I can't see the bigger picture as he can.  Plus, I asked and God delivered.  You see, after my mom died, I was quite sad and lonely.  I have always been different than most and connected with just certain people.  Never liking crowds or needing many friends, but delighting in a few loyal ones I could have deep conversations with.   And after my mom died and I had recently broken up with who I thought my soul-mate was, I was obviously quite lonely.  I knew it was not right to fight what could not be...but my heart still ached as I could talk, or so I thought, through small glances.  Not sure why God gives us such pain, or shows us such deep love and longing and then takes it away.  So on my 23 birthday, I sat on my grandmother's piano bench, and prior to blowing out the candles said, ok God, I am tired of being all alone and dating non-compatibles, PLEASE bring me someone who works with his hands (grandma told me that woodworkers were good guys as her brother was one), someone who drives an SUV (a novelty back then and I thought was WAY cool), rock climbs and mountain bikes.  Little did I know God was going to deliver...
 
The VERY next day, I got a call from my best friend Sandy.   She said she had pictures of a guy she wanted to bring over to my rental suite tomorrow (monday) to show me.  I was stunned.  Could God answer a request so fast?  My friend NEVER called me up ( I always called her) and she never came over...so this was all very, very bizarre.  Thus, she came monday after work with about 3 pictures of my current husband.  Hmmm...dark hair and dark eyes, but I like light brown hair and blue eyes...But hey, can't argue with God, so she asked for permission to pass on my phone number to her workmate to pass on to him.   I agreed.  That saturday we had our first date.  I found out, he drove a chevy blazer, was a cabinet maker and was a mountain bike and rock climbing fanatic.  Was this really happening???  It seemed too perfect.  He was very kind etc.  Within months we moved in together renting a main floor suite on 106 st.  and the rest is history.  
 
Despite my lack of physical attraction, I did observe that he had many of my mom's qualities--he can sneeze 8x and my mom used to do the same.  He had her hair color and her kindness.  But unlike her, he lacked the ability to share compassion.  One must watch what they ask for:)!  It was a strange mix I would say, but God must have put us together for some reason.  Perhaps we each tempered each other in certain ways.  He is calm and his chinese sign says, placid, placid, placid.   I am not so calm and can demonstrate all emotions quite well.  Working on calmness.  There have been many challenges in our marriage and it is no fairy tale wedding story or marriage.  We have had few big fights however which is positive I would think.  We generally get along very well.  We have 3 amazing children together and are learning all the time the art of parenting.  Children take your selfishness away and teach YOU how to behave and what is important!  We have both made huge strides in our areas of weakness.  I have always wished for a more compassionate type or book-worm type, but instead I got Tim the tool man tailor.  With that comes jokes and fun.  Seriousness is not a big part of our family.  I am a big goof and can make my kids laugh even when they get big boo boos, and Kevin is always goofing around...both of us perhaps too much!  We should really grow up.  
 
So the question remains, if you ask for something, does God truly fulfill it and in addition to that, know what is better for you than you?